Ep 20. The Up-Level Reset (Part 4) The Identity Shift

In Part 4 of The Up-Level Reset, I’m closing out the mini-series with a powerful identity shift for 2026 because real change doesn’t stick when it’s built on pressure, willpower, or all-or-nothing resolutions. This episode helps you shift from outcome-based goals (“I need to fix this”) to identity-based change (“I’m the kind of person who…”), so your habits actually have somewhere to live. We’ll also uncover the feeling beneath your goals, explore how tiny, repeated wins rewire your brain over time, and end with a guided visualization to help you step into the version of you you’re becoming.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why most New Year’s resolutions fail (outcome-based, all-or-nothing, willpower-driven)
  • The real root of lasting change: identity-based change
  • How your identity shapes what you notice, choose, and repeat (especially in parenting)
  • The “feeling beneath the goal” (calm, connection, confidence, freedom, peace, etc.)
  • Becoming an “energetic match” for that feeling now through small daily rituals
  • The neuroscience of change: tiny repeated wins + repetition = rewired pathways
  • “New year, truer me” (instead of “new year, new me”)
  • Guided visualization: your future self, your home energy, and how you show up as a parent

Journal prompts (from the episode):

  1. Old identity to release: What identity are you ready to retire—and how has it limited you or your family?
  2. Who you’re becoming: Write 3 statements that begin with “I am…” (as a human + as a parent).
  3. Feeling you’re calling in: What core feeling do you want more of in 2026—and one practical way to practice it this week?
  4. Smallest next step: What does your future self do regularly—and what’s the smallest version you can start this week?

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Inside, you’ll get the full Rooted in Connection course dripped out over the next few months, monthly, live Zoom workshops with Q&A, and hot seat coaching, and a growing resource library of scripts + nervous system tools, so you don’t have to do this alone.

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Kerrick was raised in the Hill Country of Austin, Texas where he studied at the University of Texas. After some travel, he moved to the Rogue Valley of Oregon with a vision to farm and support youth. He completed his Bachelor’s of Science in Applied Cultural Anthropology with Honors in 2004 at Southern Oregon University, and devoted over a decade supporting youth and their families navigate  local and state social service programs. During this time, he and his partner cultivated a food forest at their home and founded Verdant Phoenix as an educational mini-farm in 2016.

Verdant Phoenix Farm became an expression of a way of life for Kerrick. He is interested in the relationships between humans, soil, microbes, plants/trees/shrubs, food, culture, time, and the web of life. As these elements inform his horticultural practice, Kerrick enjoys supporting landscapes, gardens, farms, and their people who are interested in belonging to the land.