In today’s episode I’m talking about something that comes up in nearly every single coaching call I have with parents: understanding what’s actually going on beneath your teen’s outward behavior. I get into why the slammed door, the “I’m fine” that clearly isn’t, and the out-of-nowhere snap at dinner are never really about what they seem to be about, and why treating them as the whole problem keeps parents stuck in the same fight over and over.
Here’s what we cover:
- Why behavior is never the whole story, it’s a message, and what your teen’s nervous system might actually be trying to tell you
- The all-too-common scenario of a teen who snaps at the same time every day after school, and what’s really happening underneath it
- Why the parent often becomes “the safest place to fall apart” and how that reframes the whole dynamic
Plus, I walk you through five steps to help you decode what’s actually being communicated so you can respond to the real thing instead of just the surface:
- Pause before you react to the behavior itself
- Ask what need isn’t getting met in that moment
- Look for the pattern, not just the moment
- Get curious instead of corrective
- Respond to the need instead of just the behavior
This episode is for any parent who’s ever been thrown off by their teen’s behavior and wanted a way back to connection instead of another power struggle.
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